How to Match Your Invitation Wording to Your Wedding

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booklet wedding invitation imbue you

As one of the first ways that guests experience your wedding, invitations are important for setting the tone guests should expect. And one of the best ways to do that is through your wording.

In other words, if you want guests to know what type of wedding you are having, it can be literally written on your invitation with your wording.

This is the fifth in a five article series: How to Choose the Right Wedding Invitations for Your Wedding Theme.

1. How to Choose a Wedding Theme That’s Meaningful to You
2. How to Show Your Personality With Your Invitations
3. How to Blend Cultures on Your Wedding Invitations
4. How to Use Your Color Palette on Your Wedding Invitations
5. How to Match Your Invitation Wording to Your Wedding

Invitation Wording: Numbers vs Words

numbers vs wordsThis is the easiest way to communicate how formal or casual your wedding is. For formal weddings, write out the date and time of your wedding. More casual weddings can use numbers instead:

Saturday, the eighth of June
Two thousand thirteen
at five o’clock in the evening


Saturday, June 8, 2013
at 5 p.m.


Invitation Wording: Add a Quote

wedding invitation quote imbue youIf you are having  a wedding with lots of personal and romantic details, you may want to share some of that feeling by adding a quote or verse to your invitation.

Quotes can tie in with your theme as well. Quotes work especially well for book or storybook weddings. Plus there are poems and novel text to work with many different types of weddings themes.

You can add quotes to your invitation itself or through a wrap or tag around your invitation for an extra special touch.


Invitation Wording: Fun with Your RSVP

fun RSVP wordingWhen your wedding is fun or nontraditional, you don’t have to be stuck with the ”accepts with pleasure/declines with regret” lines on most RSVPs. You can have more fun with it.

You can even incorporate your wedding theme in the RSVP wording, with theme appropriate wording.

Just make sure that the RSVPs aren’t so clever that guests don’t know if they are saying yes or no, or so elaborate that they have to write an essay to respond.

Some fun ideas:

will celebrate
___in body

___in spirit



___can’t wait!

___can’t make it



___deal me in

___I fold


Invitation Wording: Dressing Up or Down

cowbody wedding attireWhether it’s “black tie optional” or “cowboy boots encouraged”, guests really do want to know what to wear.

So even though it may not be the most traditional thing to do, if you have a particular attire for your wedding in mind, let your guests know. They’ll have more fun and you’ll have more fun because everyone will feel more comfortable.


Invitation Wording: No Kids

kids at wedding ringbearerThis issue has been coming up more and more: How do you politely tell your guests to leave their children at home? The most traditional way to do this is to include an inner and outer envelope, with the inner envelope specifically naming who is invited, or “and guest” if the invited person can bring a guest.

However, the inner/outer envelope is not being used by many couples these days. In that case, you can simply add “Adult only” to your invitations. But I prefer adding something like “Reception is an adult-only affair” to the RSVP, where it will most likely be read and understood.

To make it even clearer, some of our couples include a line “We have reserved ____ seats in your honor”, with the number written or printed in. This also keeps a stricter control of your wedding guest list, especially if you feel that some of your guests may bring uninvited guests.

For more information and step by step advice on getting your personality in your invitations, download our free styleguide: 7 Designer Secrets for Meaningful and Memorable Wedding Invitations.

{Photo credits: numbers: wedding booklet invitation: Imbue You; invitation quote: Imbue You Wedding; RSVP via Sparkle & Hay; cowboy boots: Kate McElwee Photography via Niche White; boy in suit: Fine Handmade Clothing}

Written by, the blog of Imbue You and Imbue You Wedding. Thanks for reading!

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Where should I list my reception information on my invitation?

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rustic chic metallic wedding invitation

I get this question often. There are a few ways to handle this depending on the formality of your wedding and on your budget.

You really only have to deal with this issue if your reception is in a different location than your wedding ceremony. Otherwise you don’t have to mention your reception at all or a simple “reception immediately following” will do.

On a reception card

This is the most proper place to put your reception information. It should follow the same formality of the card and be in the same style and font. So if you are writing out times on your invitation in words, do so here too.


Please join us for a reception following the ceremony.
at six o’clock
Whaler’s Inn Restaurant
367 Main Street
Baltimore, Maryland


On an events card

If you are having many events during a wedding weekend, your reception information can be listed along with them on an events card. In that case follow the layout and wording of the other events listed on your card.


On the invitation

If you are putting this information on your invitation, leave a space between your ceremony wording and the reception wording.

Follow the same formality of the main invitation. Whether you are using numbers or words for your dates and times, do the same for your reception information. And just like the invitation wording, the zip code is not typically listed.

Reception to follow
at six o’clock in the evening

Whaler’s Inn Restaurant
367 Main Street
Baltimore, Maryland


On the RSVP

If there’s no room on your invitation and you don’t have budget for a reception card, there’s often room to list this information on the RSVP.

I see this as a last resort though because the RSVP is returned to you and doesn’t stay with your guests.

Reception at 6 pm
Whaler’s Inn Restaurant
367 Main Street
Baltimore, Maryland

{Photo credit: Imbue You Wedding, read about this rustic wedding invitation color palette}

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{Ask Imbue You} When is the right RSVP Date Deadline ?

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As an invitation designer I see a lot of “two weeks before the wedding” RSVP by dates. This usually works great for the caterer, who only needs that long to prepare meals for your final headcount.

But catering isn’t the only consideration for your RSVP date. That’s why I recommend setting you RSVP by date to four weeks before your wedding, three weeks at the shortest. And here’s why:

bride on phone

1. Tracking Down Non-responders

Never a fun thing to do, especially not fun {and more stressful} on a tight time limit.
{photo from Whimsical Wonderland Weddings}


Persian bohemian ethnic place cards

2. Your Seating Plan

Developing a seating plan for your guests almost always takes more time than you think it will.
{photo from Imbue You Wedding}


Lotus wedding stationery program table number

3. Your Ceremony and Reception Stationery

You’ll need a completed seating plan to finish your place cards. Purchasing or creating your menu cards, ceremony programs and other day of stationery also depends on accurate numbers.
{photo from Imbue You Wedding}


elegant bridal clutch purse

4. Your Budget

Without proper numbers you can overestimate your quantities. Plus last minute decisions and work can lead to rush fees, which can eat into your budget or make you spend more than you have to.
{photo by Belles & Crystals}


whimsical wedding cake sculpture

5. Your Sanity

Ultimately, the final days before your wedding should be as low-stress as possible. You’ll have enough final preparations in the days before your wedding without adding on extra to-dos.
{photo by Will Cotton}

So set your RSVP date a little earlier. You’ll be glad you did!

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