How to Show Menu Selections on Your Place Cards

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color choices for wedding menu selection

We were working on place cards for one of our brides last week when she mentioned that she found cute little stamps to show her guests’ menu selections on their place cards.

And it got me thinking about how our other customers have solved this problem.

In many cases your caterer’s waiters will not ask your guests what they ordered for dinner.

Or you may not want them to in order to have a carefree experience for your guests. Or for fear that people will forget or change their minds and throw off your count.

You can go by your seating chart, but what if someone doesn’t quite sit where they should?

As a result, including some kind of code on your place cards or escort cards has become very popular… with couples and caterers.

These are some options:

wedding menu icon on place cards


You can do these with stamps or by asking the person working on your stationery to include icons in the design.

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letters for menu choice selection on wedding place card


Using letters, such as “B” for beef and “C” for chicken, works well for more formal weddings.

At first Amanda, whose place cards are shown above, wanted to use icons for her design. But she liked the more formal look of using the letters, and we incorporated them into the look of the rest of her stationery. So it all blended.


color coded place cards for wedding menu selection

Color Coded

Color coding is very popular.

One reason, it’s very easy to see. Stamps and letters can be small but if your entire card is a color, it can be really fast for waiters to understand and move on.

These map place tags were coded for beef, chicken, fish and even the kids meal. The couple used airport codes for table numbers to go with the travel theme


Spell it out

Maybe the easiest thing of all is to simply write, or have printed “beef” or “chicken” on the back of your escort cards.


Both the map place tag and folded tent design are available online in your custom colors from our Etsy handmade stationery shop.

Photos, except the stamped icon photo, are by Imbue You.

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Yes, Your Wedding Stationery Can Match Your Venue. Here’s How…

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match your wedding to your venue

I sometimes hear from couples who have picked a fabulous place to get married. They love it, but are unsure how to incorporate the right colors, stationery and style to fit the venue.

So how do you make it work when your venue is your wedding theme?

Appearance and Style

The first clue for design is what does your venue look like? Does it have stunning arches, traditional columns, wooden beams or any other interesting architecture that can be inspiration? Does your venue have an obvious theme like barn or nautical. It may be hard to style your wedding differently from a venue with a very strong look and feel…so in that case just go with it.

Is there art of a certain type? What does the tableware look like? Is it traditional or modern? You’ll want to match the elegance or modernness of your venue in your wedding design if you are tying the two together.


What are the built in colors at the venue that you must work with? Think about wall color or drapery if you are not covering the walls with draping yourself.

You don’t have to use the same exact colors as the room decor, but you’ll want to make sure the colors you choose work in the space. Recently one of the brides I was working with took one of her color cues from the dishes.


Are you in the city or the country, by a lake or atop a mountain? Design inspiration can come from the surrounding area especially if that’s one of the reasons you love the venue. Your location can inspire color choices and design for stationery or your cake.


Is it an intimate space, a romantic space, a casual space? You can capture a romantic mood with muted colors or simple color palettes without a lot of contrast. Alternatively a modern art galley venue might inspire you to try bold, rich colors and grand design statements.

Your Preferences

Why did you pick this venue (other than date availability!)? Does it have an Old World charm that you love? Is the view of the skyline amazing at night? Narrowing in on what makes this a great venue for your wedding will give you design clues to point you in the right style direction.

{Venue: Farbridge in the U.K.; Photo by Wedding Photography by Jon Day}

{ Written by Imbue You Wedding, the home of romantic wedding stationery }

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Mexican Wedding: 5 Romantic Theme Ideas for a Mexico Wedding

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Getting married in Mexico? I’m sure it will be beautiful and romantic.

And there’s so much you do theme-wise to create a personal wedding that your family and friends will enjoy.

Whatever your style, there’s a Mexico wedding theme that’s sure to be right for you. These are 5 ideas to get you started:


Mexican Tile Wedding Invitation

Talavera Tile

If you love color, a talavera tile theme might be perfect.

Mexican tiles are an explosion of color, so you can use one colorful palette, or several palettes of tiles throughout your wedding. Imagine all the cool things you can do with Mexican tiles.

More Mexican tile wedding inspiration >


Mexican Peasant Print Folk Invitation

Mexican Folk

A Mexican folk theme is also for the colorphile.

But it adds in more of a playful, bohemian vibe with flowers and fun shapes.

More Mexico vintage folk inspiration >


vintage mexico map invitation booklet

Vintage Mexican Travel

Celebrate the travel nature of your destination wedding with vintage maps of Mexico.

Maps are always fun to play with! And there are so many things you can do with them at your reception.


Mexican Talavera Tile Wedding Invitation

Old World

Mix Old World Europe with Mexican culture and you have hacienda inspired style.

With rich colors and luxurious details it’s more of a traditional, elegant look for a Mexico wedding.

More hacienda wedding inspiration >


sand dollar beach wedding invitation

Mexico Beach

And what if you simply fell in love with the soft sand and relaxing waves of a Mexico wedding?

Well, then you can always celebrate the beach as your wedding theme.

More beach wedding inspiration >

All photos and text by Imbue You. All of these designs are available with coordinating save the dates and reception stationery. Learn more at Imbue You Wedding.

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How to Address Wedding Invitation Envelopes

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invitation return address label

Along with your reception seating chart, figuring out your guest list can be one of the most frustrating and confusing parts of wedding planning. But it doesn’t have to be.

When it comes to actually addressing your envelopes, here are some things to consider:


1- How formal do you want to be?

Rules and etiquette aside, the addressing of your wedding invitations should fit the tone and formality of your wedding. If your wedding is casual, addressing your invitation to Mr. and Mrs. John Hubbard just doesn’t fit.

And the opposite is also true. Formal weddings should not have nicknames on the envelope.

These are some options ranging from formal to more casual:

Mr. and Mrs. John Hubbard
Mr. Thomas Jones and Mr. Richard Johnson (for same sex couples)

Ms. Leslie Jones and Mr. Richard Johnson (wife uses maiden name)

Leslie Jones and Richard Johnson (wife uses maiden name)
Leslie and John Hubbard

Aunt Leslie and Uncle John Hubbard

*note on the formal “Mr. and Mrs. John Hubbard”. Some women may not want to be addressed as “Mrs. John Hubbard”, and some women use their maiden names (me included).

So an understanding of your wedding vision and also your guests is important. Many people now split up their addressing generationally, with older guests getting the more formal “Mr. and Mrs. John Hubbard” and younger guests getting “Leslie and John Hubbard” even for formal weddings.

More help from Emily Post.


2- Who is invited?

This used to be a bit simpler with inner and outer envelopes. You would address the outer envelope and list the individual names of the people invited on the inner envelope. Most couples nowadays are skipping the inner envelope, or use it to keep the invitation fresh, and so don’t address it.

That’s ok. It just means your addressing also has to communicate who’s invited to the wedding. For a family with kids and the kids can come, include the parents names and the children’s first names. Or simply add “and Family”. You can also address the envelope to “The Hubbard Family”.

If children aren’t invited, leave them off the envelope. You may also have to let them know, informally and/or in your invitation stationery that children aren’t invited, though adding it to your stationery is more of a personal choice.

With single guests who are engaged, living with a partner, or in a long-term relationship, put both people by name on the envelope. And it’s perfectly fine to put the name of the person you know the best first. When couples are living together, both people should be invited.

When you don’t know who your guest may bring, you can add “and Guest” to the envelope.


3- Who gets their own invitations?

Guests over 18 should get their own invitations, even if they are living with other guests. This goes for living with parents or a roommate.


4- What to do with titles?

Titles such as Rev. and Dr. should be abbreviated. The person with the title is listed first. So when the wife is a doctor and the husband is not, she goes first.

Some remaining tips:

  • Check the addresses on your list, then check them again. You’ll almost always find something you missed.
  • When organizing your list in Excel, check for missing zeros at the front of zipcodes when they are in their own cell.
  • If a parent or someone else needs to have input on who’s invited and how the addresses look on the envelope, get them involved early in the list making. That way you’re on the same page, and only have to make your list once.

Find the answers to other wording and etiquette questions.

Are there other questions and issues you face with addressing your invitations? Let us know in comments.

{Photo by Imbue You Wedding}

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How to Create Wedding Invitations That Are Classic But Not Too Formal

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sand dollar beach wedding invitation

If I had a nickel for every time one of our handmade wedding stationery clients told me “I don’t want my invitations to be too formal”, I could close the stationery studio and open a bank.

Ok even though, that’s not technically right (I would need a lot more nickels!), it is true that couples are asking for less formal, more casual and intimate wedding stationery.

But how do you get there?

Keep reading and I’ll show you 3 ways to look at your invitations to reduce the formality. And then I’ll show you how to put it all together for your unique stationery look.

Rustic Leaf Fall Wedding Invitation

Invitation Design

There’s just something uber formal about an engraved all text wedding invitation with gold edging.

Some design elements will be more formal that others. For instance metallic cardstock, especially gold or silver seem more formal than matte. And ivory comes off as more formal (or vintage) than white.

But some formal design elements like swashes can be made less formal by simply adding color or tilting them for a more modern take.

vintage map wedding invitation

Invitation Text

Your wording is a great indication of the formality of your wedding. I wrote about that earlier when explaining formal wedding invitation wording.

So one great way to reduce the formal is to choose alternative wedding invitation wording, add a quote and/or not have your dates spelled out.

Indian lotus floral wedding invitation

Invitations Fonts

Scripts are more formal than all caps serifs which are more formal than regular serifs which are more formal than san serifs. Plus within these categories some fonts will just look more casual than others.

And with that you can have all kinds of fun mixing and matching to find the right look for you.

Putting It All Together

So am I saying that you can’t have any of the elements that make an invitation look formal?

Not at all!

In fact mixing and matching formal with casual touches is what will give you a classic look to your invitations. Plus, it will show your own personality.

So if you want gold metallic invitations, you may want to pair it with less formal fonts and alternative wording. If you want a formal script you can pair it with a less formal font on matte cardstock.

On your wedding invitations are you going for casual, classic or formal?

{All photos and text by Imbue You, the home of romantic wedding stationery}

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RePost: How to Write Wedding Thank You Notes Fast and Easy

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Wedding Thank You Card

Writing 75 to 150 or more personal thank you notes after your wedding sounds daunting, right? But it actually can be easy and stress free with a few tips … and some cheat sheets.

So here it is, your wedding thank you note survival guide:


Top 5 Thank You Note Writing Tips

Keep that List

Dust off your wedding invitation address list, you know the one that took forever to pull together. And simply add a column for gift and a place for a check mark. Here you’ll write down details of the gift next to the addresses.


Make a Space

Ok, the best way for this to be fast and easy is to make it fast and easy. So do yourself a favor and keep a dedicated space for this task. A desk or corner of the kitchen table will do.

The important thing is to keep everything within arms reach.

For you right-handed folks, I suggest keeping:

  1. the list on the left
  2. thank you cards in the middle where you sit with envelopes next to them on the right
  3. pens where your right hand is
  4. stamps on the top left or right depending on how it’s easiest for you to grab them to place on your envelope
  5. a clear place next to you to put your completed stamped notes

Yes it’s an assembly line…and it will make your note writing lightning fast.


Give It a Rest

Seriously, don’t try to do it all in one go, or in one wild thank you writing weekend. Aim to do 4 to 6 notes at a time. And then walk away.

Not only will you feel better, your guests won’t see your hurried penmanship as you start to get tired. Plus you’ll make fewer mistakes…and who wants to do these twice?


Divide and Conquer

Don’t draw straws for this one, you both should work on thank you notes. You’re aiming to get all of your notes out within 6 weeks of your wedding, and not go crazy. So you are going to need two people.

One simple way to do this is for you to take your family and friends, and for your spouse to do the same. Agree ahead of time, and split the list so there’s no confusion, or double notes.


Write and Repeat

Yes, thank you notes should be personal and heartfelt. But that doesn’t mean you have to reinvent the wheel each time you write one.

So come up with a few thank you note templates ahead of time. Proof and spell check these thoroughly. Feel free to add a more personal sentence or two for dear friends and close family.

No one compares thank you notes, so your guests will never know. And you’ll be done faster.

Imbue You Mexican Tile Note Card

Anatomy of a Thank You Note

Dear Who?

Write based on what you call the person, whether it be Uncle Kevin, Bob, or — in the case your childhood neighbor — Mrs. Hansen.


The note

The key is to show your appreciation for the gift. That may mean telling the person how you will use the gift or how you will cherish it for years to come. The most important thing is to mention the gift by name, unless it’s money (see below for how to handle that)


The sign-off

There’s one person writing the note, so one person should sign it. You can mention your spouse in the note to let the recipient know that the appreciation is from both of you.

And how to sign it? Love, With love, Thanks again, Fondly, With best wishes sound more heartfelt than Regards or Sincerely. For close family, friends and co-workers, sign using just your first name. For people who know you less well, sign your full name. Go with what feels right.


Imbue You Butterfly Note Card

Sample Thank You Notes – aka Your Cheat Sheet

For close friends and family

Dear Aunt Linda,

Thank you so much for the ballroom dancing lessons. Ted and I absolutely love them! Every time we cha-cha we’ll think of you. I’ll definitely send pictures. I hope you had a wonderful time at our wedding. It meant so much to us that you came all the way from Florida. We loved having you there.

With love,


For a charity donation

Dear Mrs. Murphy,

Thank you for your wedding gift to the North Shore Animal League in our names. Both Michelle and I love animals, and your thoughtful gift will help dogs and cats find loving homes. We truly hope you enjoyed our wedding. We loved having you there.

Wish best wishes,
Thomas Anderson


For a cash gift

Dear Uncle Geoff and Aunt Missy,

Thank you so much for your generous wedding gift. Leslie and I are saving for a new home, and with your gift we are well on our way! Thank you for sharing our wedding day with us. It was truly a pleasure having you there.

Much love,


Group Gift

If under 10, each person gets their own note. Larger groups, like co-workers, can get a group note on a bulletin board, with an in-person thank you the next time you see or speak with them.

Dear Lisa,

Thank you for the lovely china set. Thanks to you all, Mark and I now have a complete service for eight. We will be using these on our most special occasions, and we know we will cherish them for years to come. Thank you again for making our home beautiful.

Wish best wishes,


When they didn’t come the wedding

Dear Uncle Lou,

Thank you so much for the Panini press. Terry and I love it. We’re finding lots of good recipes and will be putting it to use soon. We missed seeing you at the wedding but promise to send you lots of pictures.

Thank you again,


When you don’t like it

Dear Harrison,

Thank you for the velvet Elvis painting. You are so thoughtful. Sarah and I enjoyed dancing the night away with you at our wedding. It meant so much to us having you there to share our special day.

With best wishes,


Now you are ready to get writing!

For more tips, visit our section on wedding wording or etiquette

Photos by Imbue You: All the note cards featured above can be found in our handmade wedding stationery shop.

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