What Wedding Stationery Do I Need ?

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Mexican Tile Wedding Invitation

The key to good wedding planning is to not have those “oh, no, I forgot…” moments, or at least to keep them to a minimum.

So let’s talk wedding stationery.

As you are starting your wedding planning and beginning to pull together your budget, you’ll need to think about what stationery you want.

Here’s a list of possible stationery to get you started. Take a look and decide what items work best for you.


Wedding website

Ok, so this isn’t stationery as we traditionally think of it. But many couples today use their websites to augment or take the place of some traditional wedding stationery, such as direction cards, accommodations cards and even reply cards.

As a result, in our own wedding stationery studio, Imbue You, we’ve started creating wedding websites designs that match our wedding stationery through Nearlyweds.com. You can think about the theme or colors of your wedding as you search for wedding websites.


bookmark save the date for beach wedding

Save the date

There are so many clever ways to tell your guests to save the date, including bookmarks, magnets, postcards and photo cards. Feel free to have more fun with your save the dates, even if your wedding is more formal or traditional.

Not all couples send out save the dates. But save the dates are more important for destination weddings, or when many of your family and friends live out of town.



It’s best for your wedding invitation to match the mood and style of your wedding. And if you are having a theme, try to have your invitation match that as well for a more cohesive and memorable experience.


Reply or Response card

These can be cards with envelopes or postcards. They are stamped to make it easy for guests to return them quickly. Try to leave yourself at least a month before your wedding as a “reply by date” I wrote an entire post on the importance of your reply by date.

If you have a wedding website with RSVP capabilities you may want to skip response cards. However if you have many non-tech savvy guests, or are having a formal or traditional wedding, it would be best to offer reply cards.


wedding invitation events card

Events card

If you are having other events or activities at your wedding celebration, such as Mehndi, welcome dinner and post wedding brunch, you may want a card to tell your guests the date, time and location.


Directions card

This can include a map, or simple text instruction for the location of the wedding ceremony or reception venue. Or how to get from one to the other.


Accommodations card

For your out-of-town guests or for a destination wedding, it’s good to provide options for where they might stay as early as possible.

This is especially true if you’ve made arrangements for group discounts or if your wedding is in a place or at a time of year when hotels book up.


Reception card

Traditionally the wedding invitation is for the ceremony. If your reception is in a different location, you may want to include a reception card, with the venue name and address.


Rustic Heart Envelope Label Set by Imbue You

Address Labels

If you aren’t doing calligraphy for your envelopes, you may want to consider address labels. These can be simple, or fancy with a design and your return and guest addresses printed.

Follow these tips when creating your guest address list.


Wedding Announcement

Announcements simply announce that you have gotten married, including day and location. These are usually sent out to family and friends who weren’t invited to the wedding. They are also handy when you’ve eloped.


Welcome bag stationery

You may decide to create a welcome bag for your out-of-town guests. These often include a short thank you note that doesn’t need to be handwritten or personalized, a schedule of events, local highlights and possibly a favor-like tag.


Ceremony Program

In addition to the order of your wedding ceremony, programs also commonly include your wedding party, parents, officiant, and a thank note to guests.


Imbue You Mexican Tile Note Card

Thank you cards

You’ll want to personally thank each person who gave you a gift, whether they attended your wedding or not. For help in writing thank you notes without feeling overwhelmed, check out these tips.


Reception Stationery

I wrote an entire post just on stationery options for your reception. You can see it here.

{photo credits} All photos by Imbue You. For a look at coordinating wedding stationery for cultural and theme weddings, visit our handmade wedding stationery shop, Imbue You.

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Our Process to Create Wedding Stationery You’ll Love

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Imbue You Handmade Process

Ever wondered how we work with customers to create handmade invitations and wedding stationery that matches their style?

Well, wonder no more. I’m taking you behind the scenes of our design process.


Our process starts with you

Whether we are working with you on wedding invitations, save the dates or ceremony and reception stationery, such as wedding programs, escort cards, table numbers or menus, the process starts the same.

We talk. Usually by email, or in the notes section on our website, you let us know your wedding colors and possibly the mood you envision for your wedding day. Is it formal, romantic, warm and intimate or vintage and quirky?

Letting us know these things can help us give better advice on paper stock, color placement and font choice.

You don’t have to know which colors go where on your designs. We figure  that out for you. And you can always ask us for advice! That’s what we are here for.


We turn your ideas into proofs

Once we have a good idea of what you want, we start designing.

If you are still unsure about your colors or font choices, we can present some options to help you choose.

All our proofs sent via email as PDFs. We recommend that you view them at 100%, so you see the actual scale of the text and designs.

And though you may love your iPhone or iPad, we’ve found that these don’t show the colors accurately. So you may want to double check everything on another computer.

The great thing about our proofing system is that you get 3 rounds of proofing. So you are allowed to change your mind! The important thing to remember is that you are not alone. So if you don’t quite know how to get the look you wanted, just ask and we’ll probably have a few suggestions.

That’s why it’s so important to know the mood you want for your wedding day. We have found that the best way to get wedding invitations and stationery you’ll love is to design with your wedding day in mind.

And if you like, we can send you photos of your designs assembled before we make them to make sure you can visualize how all the colors will work together.


We make your wedding stationery by hand

Since we spend so much time together during the proofing process, we come to think of your wedding as our wedding, and want to make sure that you love your stationery.

Caring does take time in the production process, so we ask for your patience as we print and hand assemble your designs. Invitations and stationery suites make take us 2 to 3 weeks to ship once you’ve approved your designs. And individual ceremony and reception stationery, such as wedding programs and place cards may take 1 to 2 weeks to ship.

But if you are in a rush, please let us know and we will do our best to accommodate your timing.

Printing is just the first step in this process. After that we cut your designs to size. In the case of our wedding program fans, cutting is a careful process to get the edging just right.

Next up is assembly by hand. Many of our designs have folds or are mounted on coordinating cardstock through gluing using one of the strongest adhesives available. With our booklet and flap fold invitations we also insert your coordinating cards.

The process is done when we add any finishing touches such as hand tied tags and ribbon.


We ship them to you as quickly as possible

And that’s it.

Your stationery is carefully packed and shipped out to you to share with your family and friends. Our standard shipping is 2 to 3 day Priority Mail, which more often than not arrives in 2 days.

We do get used to the beautiful colors and combinations in our workshop of individual designs. But we know there will be new beautiful orders to work on, and possibly a chance to revisit those colors on matching stationery later on.

Would you like to work with us on beautiful handmade stationery of your own? Visit us.

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The Stress-free Guide to Writing Wedding Thank You Notes

Posted by in Ask Imbue You, Wording and Etiquette

Imbue You Lotus Thank You Card

Writing 75 to 150 or more personal thank you notes after your wedding sounds daunting, right? But it actually can be easy and stress free with a few tips … and some cheat sheets.

So here it is, your wedding thank you note survival guide:


Top 5 Thank You Note Writing Tips

Keep that List

Dust off your wedding invitation address list, you know the one that took forever to pull together. And simply add a column for gift and a place for a check mark. Here you’ll write down details of the gift next to the addresses.


Make a Space

Ok, the best way for this to be fast and easy is to make it fast and easy. So do yourself a favor and keep a dedicated space for this task. A desk or corner of the kitchen table will do.

The important thing is to keep everything within arms reach.

For you right-handed folks, I suggest keeping:

  1. the list on the left
  2. thank you cards in the middle where you sit with envelopes next to them on the right
  3. pens where your right hand is
  4. stamps on the top left or right depending on how it’s easiest for you to grab them to place on your envelope
  5. a clear place next to you to put your completed stamped notes

Yes it’s an assembly line…and it will make your note writing lightning fast.


Give It a Rest

Seriously, don’t try to do it all in one go, or in one wild thank you writing weekend. Aim to do 4 to 6 notes at a time. And then walk away.

Not only will you feel better, your guests won’t see your hurried penmanship as you start to get tired. Plus you’ll make fewer mistakes…and who wants to do these twice?


Divide and Conquer

Don’t draw straws for this one, you both should work on thank you notes. You’re aiming to get all of your notes out within 6 weeks of your wedding, and not go crazy. So you are going to need two people.

One simple way to do this is for you to take your family and friends, and for your spouse to do the same. Agree ahead of time, and split the list so there’s no confusion, or double notes.


Write and Repeat

Yes, thank you notes should be personal and heartfelt. But that doesn’t mean you have to reinvent the wheel each time you write one.

So come up with a few thank you note templates ahead of time. Proof and spell check these thoroughly. Feel free to add a more personal sentence or two for dear friends and close family.

No one compares thank you notes, so your guests will never know. And you’ll be done faster.

Imbue You Mexican Tile Note Card

Anatomy of a Thank You Note

Dear Who?

Write based on what you call the person, whether it be Uncle Kevin, Bob, or — in the case your childhood neighbor — Mrs. Hansen.


The note

The key is to show your appreciation for the gift. That may mean telling the person how you will use the gift or how you will cherish it for years to come. The most important thing is to mention the gift by name, unless it’s money (see below for how to handle that)


The sign-off

There’s one person writing the note, so one person should sign it. You can mention your spouse in the note to let the recipient know that the appreciation is from both of you.

And how to sign it? Love, With love, Thanks again, Fondly, With best wishes sound more heartfelt than Regards or Sincerely. For close family, friends and co-workers, sign using just your first name. For people who know you less well, sign your full name. Go with what feels right.


Imbue You Butterfly Note Card

Sample Thank You Notes – aka Your Cheat Sheet

For close friends and family

Dear Aunt Linda,

Thank you so much for the ballroom dancing lessons. Ted and I absolutely love them! Every time we cha-cha we’ll think of you. I’ll definitely send pictures. I hope you had a wonderful time at our wedding. It meant so much to us that you came all the way from Florida. We loved having you there.

With love,


For a charity donation

Dear Mrs. Murphy,

Thank you for your wedding gift to the North Shore Animal League in our names. Both Michelle and I love animals, and your thoughtful gift will help dogs and cats find loving homes. We truly hope you enjoyed our wedding. We loved having you there.

Wish best wishes,
Thomas Anderson


For a cash gift

Dear Uncle Geoff and Aunt Missy,

Thank you so much for your generous wedding gift. Leslie and I are saving for a new home, and with your gift we are well on our way! Thank you for sharing our wedding day with us. It was truly a pleasure having you there.

Much love,


Group Gift

If under 10, each person gets their own note. Larger groups, like co-workers, can get a group note on a bulletin board, with an in-person thank you the next time you see or speak with them.

Dear Lisa,

Thank you for the lovely china set. Thanks to you all, Mark and I now have a complete service for eight. We will be using these on our most special occasions, and we know we will cherish them for years to come. Thank you again for making our home beautiful.

Wish best wishes,


When they didn’t come the wedding

Dear Uncle Lou,

Thank you so much for the Panini press. Terry and I love it. We’re finding lots of good recipes and will be putting it to use soon. We missed seeing you at the wedding but promise to send you lots of pictures.

Thank you again,


When you don’t like it

Dear Harrison,

Thank you for the velvet Elvis painting. You are so thoughtful. Sarah and I enjoyed dancing the night away with you at our wedding. It meant so much to us having you there to share our special day.

With best wishes,


Now you are ready to get writing!

For more tips, visit our section on wedding wording or etiquette

Photos by Imbue You: All the note cards featured above can be found in our handmade wedding stationery shop.

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Where do I list reception information on my invitations ?

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rustic chic metallic wedding invitation

I get this question often. There are a few ways to handle this depending on the formality of your wedding and on your budget.

You really only have to deal with this issue if your reception is in a different location than your wedding ceremony. Otherwise you don’t have to mention your reception at all or a simple “reception immediately following” will do.

On a reception card

This is the most proper place to put your reception information. It should follow the same formality of the card and be in the same style and font. So if you are writing out times on your invitation in words, do so here too.


Please join us for a reception following the ceremony.
at six o’clock
Whaler’s Inn Restaurant
367 Main Street
Baltimore, Maryland


On an events card

If you are having many events during a wedding weekend, your reception information can be listed along with them on an events card. In that case follow the layout and wording of the other events listed on your card.


On the invitation

If you are putting this information on your invitation, leave a space between your ceremony wording and the reception wording.

Follow the same formality of the main invitation. Whether you are using numbers or words for your dates and times, do the same for your reception information. And just like the invitation wording, the zip code is not typically listed.

Reception to follow
at six o’clock in the evening

Whaler’s Inn Restaurant
367 Main Street
Baltimore, Maryland


On the RSVP

If there’s no room on your invitation and you don’t have budget for a reception card, there’s often room to list this information on the RSVP.

I see this as a last resort though because the RSVP is returned to you and doesn’t stay with your guests.

Reception at 6 pm
Whaler’s Inn Restaurant
367 Main Street
Baltimore, Maryland

{Photo credit: Imbue You Wedding, read about this rustic wedding invitation color palette}

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Tips for a Colorful, Not Crazy, Wedding Palette

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colorful ribbon wedding backdrop

This week I’ve been talking to a bride who wants to have a “colorful” wedding, but didn’t know where to start. Many of our wedding invitation designs have a lot of place to put color. But she wasn’t sure where to start defining her own palette.

My advice for her would also help other couples wanting to create a fun wedding that’s still pulled together and elegant. Mexican weddings and Moroccan themes, come to mind, but also subtler palettes, such as a quirky vintage or homespun wedding.

{photo by Love Ala via 100 Layer Cake}


muted rainbow wedding bunting

1. Pick a Mood

Sure a colorful wedding can be a bright, fun fiesta. But it can also be a soft vintage or romantic affair. Knowing how you want the wedding to feel will help you choose the right colors and the right hues (muted  or bright) for your palette.

The bride who contacted me this week wants a bright, happy Mexico wedding. So her colors will be full of saturation.

{photo by Tim Coulson via Green Wedding Shoes}


Moroccan wedding shower decor

2. Have a Core Palette

In order for your colorful wedding to look deliberate, you’ll need colors that look good together and share a similar vibrancy. So, first choose 2 colors that work well together. These will be your core colors that you use in most of your designs and stationery.

For the bride I was talking to, her favorite color is purple and her fiancé’s favorite is green. So for the purpose of the core palette, I suggested purple and chartreuse green.  Each of those colors can work well with a variety of other strong colors that would also complement the other core color.

{photo via our customer Jessica. See original post here.}


color chips

3. Choose 2 to 3 colors that work best with the core

A typical wedding palette will have 2 to 3 strong colors and 2 to 3 neutrals (like gray, ivory, tan, champagne or white).  For a colorful look, more of the palette will be in the strong area. Look for colors that will work well with each core color. That will give you more variety for mixing and matching, and provide the colorful look you are going for.

In the example above, of the purple and chartreuse, orange, red, teal and even yellow would fill out the palette nicely. White or ivory can be added to allow the colors to breathe on stationery. With stationery white will allow more of the vibrancy to show, while ivory will mute the colors a bit, and possibly provide more blend.

{photo via Chic Cheap Nursery}

colorful wedding desserts rainbow pastel

4. Have Fun

With a color palette full of strong colors, there’s a lot you can do to add variety to your wedding designs. Different colors can take the lead on different items for a rich, colorful look. Just make sure at least one of the core is present and your wedding will still look polished.

{photos: left photo via That Inspirational Girl; right photo via Belle the Magazine}

{Written by imbueyouido.com, the blog of Imbue You and Imbue You Wedding}

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Tips for Addressing Your Wedding Invitation Envelopes

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Rustic Heart Envelope Label Set by Imbue You

Along with your reception seating chart, figuring out your guest list can be one of the most frustrating and confusing parts of wedding planning. But it doesn’t have to be.

When it comes to actually addressing your envelopes, here are some things to consider:


How formal do you want to be?

Rules and etiquette aside, the addressing of your wedding invitations should fit the tone and formality of your wedding. If your wedding is casual, addressing your invitation to Mr. and Mrs. John Hubbard just doesn’t fit. And the opposite is also true. Formal weddings should not have nicknames on the envelope.

These are some options ranging from formal to more casual:

Mr. and Mrs. John Hubbard
Mr. Thomas Jones and Mr. Richard Johnson (for same sex couples)

Ms. Leslie Jones and Mr. Richard Johnson (wife uses maiden name)

Leslie Jones and Richard Johnson (wife uses maiden name)
Leslie and John Hubbard (the wife goes first)

Aunt Leslie and Uncle John Hubbard

*note on the formal “Mr. and Mrs. John Hubbard”. Many women may not want to be addressed as “Mrs. John Hubbard”, and some women use their maiden names (me included).

So an understanding of your event and also your guests is important. Many people now split up their addressing generationally, with older guests getting the more formal “Mr. and Mrs. John Hubbard” and younger guest getting “Leslie and John Hubbard” even for formal weddings.

More help from Emily Post.


Who is invited?

This used to be a bit simpler with inner and outer envelopes. You would address the outer envelope and list the individual names of the people invited on the inner envelope. Most couples nowadays are skipping the inner envelope, or use it to keep the invitation fresh, and so don’t address it.

That’s ok. It just means your addressing also has to communicate who’s invited to the wedding. For a family with kids and the kids can come, include the parents names and the children’s first names. Or simply add “and Family”. You can also address the envelope to “The Hubbard Family”.

If children aren’t invited, leave them off the envelope. You may also have to let them know, informally and/or in your invitation stationery that children aren’t invited, though adding it to your stationery is more controversial.

With single guests who are engaged, living with a partner, or in a long-term relationship, put both people by name on the envelope. And it’s perfectly fine to put the name of the person you know the best first. When couples are living together, both people should be invited.

When you don’t know who your guest may bring, you can add “and Guest” to the envelope.


Who gets their own invitations?

Guests over 18 should get their own invitations, even if they are living with other guests. This goes for living with parents or a roommate.


What to do with titles?

Titles such as Rev. and Dr. should be abbreviated. The person with the title is listed first. So when the wife is a doctor and the husband is not, she goes first.

Some remaining tips:

  • Check the addresses on your list, then check them again. You’ll almost always find something you missed.
  • When organizing your list in Excel, check for missing zeros at the front of zipcodes when they are in their own cell.
  • If a parent or someone else needs to have input on who’s invited and how the addresses look on the envelope, get them involved early in the list making. That way you’re on the same page, and only have to make your list once.

Find the answers to other wording and etiquette questions.

Are there other questions and issues you face with addressing your invitations? Let us know in comments.

{Photo by Imbue You Wedding. Written by imbueyouido.com, the blog of Imbue You and Imbue You Wedding}

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