How to Ask for Cash or Money for a Wedding Gift

Posted by in Ask Imbue You, Wording and Etiquette

gift envelopes by sally sanders

We all get it. You likely have been living with your sweetie. And you already have many of the household items that couples used to register for. You may even have two!

Another blender is of no use to you. But money you can use for a house down payment or a dream honeymoon is helpful. And that’s fair…so there’s no need to feel guilty about it.

So if what you really want for your wedding is money and not a knife set, here are a couple of wording options for your wedding website or additional enclosure card with your wedding invitation. Like registry info, I don’t suggest this goes on the invitation itself:

Your presence at our wedding is all that we wish for! However, if you want to give a gift, we would be grateful for a cash donation towards our {insert what you need it for: honeymoon, house, new future together}.

Your company at our wedding is our greatest gift. However, if you would like to give a gift, we are saving up for {a house} and would appreciate a cash donation to help that dream come true.


Other Cash Gift Options

Cash Registries

But if all this is still too much trouble, you can simply signup for a cash registry and treat the wording the same as any other registry. Done and done!

What I like about cash registries is that you often sign up for items, like airplane tickets for your honeymoon or a romantic dinner. And guests can contribute towards that. It makes the idea of cash more tangible and more like a gift.

No Boxed Gifts

For many of our couples having Indian and Pakistani weddings, there’s the tradition of saying “no boxed gifts” when asking for money instead of gifts.

And there is a heart-felt honest explanation of this tradition over at The Bridal Diaries:

If you are looking to do this, I suggest wording like “We kindly request no boxed gifts”.

If you have many non Indian or Pakistani guests, expect many of them to be confused by this. So you may also want to use some of the above wording on a website to clear up the confusion.

Wishing Well

Many of our Australian couples use the concept of the “wishing well” to ask for cash gifts. Poems are popular and this one is my favorite… mostly because it’s short, to the point and still gracious.

If you were thinking of giving a gift
to help us on our way,
a gift of cash towards our house,
would really make our day.
However, if you prefer to purchase a gift,
feel free to surprise us in your own way.

So how about it? Are you asking for money instead of gifts, or in addition to gifts? How are you doing it? And were you embarrassed to do it?

{Photo credit: Sally Sanders Calligraphy & Design}

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